Not Letting the Scale Do More Harm Than Help

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We all know the feelings attached to the action of stepping on a scale, whether it's true indifference, curiosity, fear, anxiety, depression or a thousand other things.


I received an important reminder today that they are just a tool, one tool that cannot tell me the whole story.


It doesn’t take into consideration that I haven’t had a full period in two months and I am possibly retaining that uterine lining, it doesn’t care that I am working as hard as I possible can to match the desire for a healthy weight against the food addict in me and the addiction to the numbers in my life that will say that I am worthwhile, that I am not a failure.


Well someone in my close vicinity decided to eff with me and tell me that the scale was inaccurate by fifteen pounds and when I turned and told him to keep that kind of crap to himself he didn’t understand, questioned and laughed off my request and here I am over two plus hours later still shook from this experience.


Here’s the good that I am choosing to create from this, a scale is just a tool and its says one number once a day that I use to consider what my choices are doing for me each and every day but again it doesn’t tell the whole story, it doesn’t care and it seemed neither did this person in my world. And that’s just the way it is.


Here’s something to consider, so what if its off by fifteen pounds?


I have been using it the same way every day for the last four weeks so changing it will only feed into the obsession I have with the tool itself and it won’t help me to focus on the point which is how I am acting each day to cause changes on the scale.


This is a journey that is fraught with fear, anxiety, hope and hopelessness and a whole lot of self worth adjustment, consider what is working and what isn’t helping and then ask for what you need.


I made it very clear to this person that he doesn’t get to talk to me about this stuff and if walking away is the only option because he thinks my request is funny rather than serious and desperately important to me, then I will walk the eff away.


Because taking care of me is always going to be the thing I pick first because no one else is going to. 


I make the commitment to anyone who reads this that I am not going to change anything on my scale, I am just going to keep doing what I am doing for my health and walk away when this person decides to insert ‘help’ where it hasn’t been requested. 


The numbers in my life that don’t need to affect my self worth:


The numbers on the scale… They don’t have the whole story, especially for women…

The numbers on my clothes… They change depending on the clothing company anyway…


I can change the numbers on the food that I am consuming and the numbers of steps or motion I am investing in every day. 


I will continue to invest in myself and ask for what I need, and when those people aren’t willing or able to respect my choices, they can be ghosted like so many others. 


Thank you
Location: Alaska, USA

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